I guess you’d have to be living under a rock, not to be aware of the latest “Tidy Up” craze with the lovely Marie Kondo. Now, I have been aware of her book and methods for many years now but have not watched the coveted Netflix series.
To be honest, my whole life is a journey to the “no clutter land”. Of course, it makes it easier when I have moved close to forty times but then it makes it tricky when you have lots of children as well, so as a result I am ALWAYS rearranging and throwing stuff out and donating things and selling things.
I guess the key is not to have so much clutter in the first place; to hold an item before you buy it and think about how much use you will actually get out of it and how long it will last and how much joy will it bring you; or will it just end up discarded somewhere on the “junk pile”. Some more things to think about are, when you do throw it out, will it harm our planet/environment and was the actual production of it ethical and from materials which are sustainable.
It may be a lot to process, but it does become a habit and you soon realise that the “little things” can amount to a LOT of little things quite quickly.
I, for example, ask questions such as above, but also “will it make my life easier”? Because sometimes I am happy to compromise if it makes my life easier.
But that is kinda not really what I wanted to address here.
I wanted to say that “things” and “stuff” is not what brings us joy. People are. Experiences are. Adventures are.
When you die, as we all must, you cannot take any of the physical stuff with you. But you can die as a vault of love and joy and memories.
Going through life accumulating physical possessions because of the false sense of security it gives you, does NOT make all the things you are hiding from, go away.
Going through life accumulating friendships and adventures makes the person that you are, so much richer. And you get to take those with you, because they imprint on your heart and in turn, you imprint onto the hearts of others.
And never go through life thinking “there’s time”, do it as NOW as you possibly can.
Six years ago, I went to Belgrade to visit my family. Now, across the courtyard from my grandmother, there lived a lady who had been grandma’s friend for many decades. When I was a little girl, this lady would take me out on “dates”. We’d get ready and put on some perfume (that made me feel so special; it was L’ancome Magic Noir) and set off; She would take me for a walk and then to a café for lunch or ice cream and she would give me all her attention.
Anyway, she used to make these little cookies which were her specialty and she was famous around the neighbourhood for them.
So, six years ago, I asked her if she could please teach me how to make these cookies.
She was so happy and flattered that I asked. I went to her house and she showed me step by step how to do it, she told me about each ingredient; where it came from, why she used it, how she used it, how much etc etc
THREE hours I spent at her place. At the end, she presented me with the recipe in her handwriting (and of course I got to take the cookies 😊).
And I could have NOT done that, I could have gone, well next time I come, I will do it then. But I didn’t. And I am so glad. Because the “next” time I went to visit, she was gone.
And you know what? I will ALWAYS remember this special memory. And no war, fire, famine or flood can take my memory away from me. And when I die, I will take it with me.
So, what I’m saying is, don’t spend your money on the shit you don’t need which will end up choking our beautiful mother earth just because you feel you have something to prove to yourself and/or others about how much stuff you have; spend your money on creating memories on going on adventures; sometimes you don’t even need to spend money on these things but you DO need to spend time. Something so precious and something once spent, cannot be regained.
In the eyes of time, we are all equal, we all get the same sixty minutes in an hour. It’s how you choose to use it that makes you rich or poor.